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Leave the Mirror, Change the World

December 10, 2014

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We were sitting outside after dinner in Phoenix, my shoulders enjoying the warm desert air. My husband, mother-in-law and I had picked out our favourite flavours of sorbet or gelato at the, according to Yelp, #1 rated ice cream spot in the city. I dug into my second scoop of chocolate sorbet, savouring the texture and flavour.

I paused, sticking my little plastic spoon back into my scoop. “It’s surreal to be doing this right now.”

They looked over with surprise.

“I mean, sitting here, enjoying my sorbet, really truly enjoying it without guilt. I never used to be able to do that. It still blows my mind that I can do that. That I’m doing this. It’s amazing.”

My overexercising and calorie counting days are long past – that’s been no secret to me. I haven’t “struggled” with body image or self esteem since about the age of seventeen or eighteen. And I know that fact may make me a very rare creature. But I’m learning, there’s a difference between feeling ugly or fat (aka. having a completely distorted view of yourself) and feeling guilt over food choices.

Guilt robs us of joy. Why should we feel guilt over food – something created to be enjoyed, in moderation like every other good gift, by God? The last couple of years have been incredibly healing for me. I’ve gone through times where I’ve been to the gym 5-6 days a week. I’ve been through times where I’ve gone to the gym once a month and tried to walk a couple times a week with my mom.

Guess what? God doesn’t love me any less.
My husband doesn’t love me any less.
My friends don’t love me any less.

Here’s a secret… when I went 4 weeks without hitting the gym, my pants still FIT.
Shocker.

Maybe it comes with age, with maturity, with being loved, who knows. But ten pounds isn’t the end of the world. This would have flabbergasted my 15-year-old self but… I don’t want to lose 10 pounds. I know how – the “how” is not a mystery to me. It would take more dedication, work, time. But guess what? I exercise 3-4 days a week. I eat healthy. I wear a healthy size. My husband thinks I’m sexy. I don’t need to lose 10 pounds. I’m happy. And I’m saving a lot of time in the process.

Young woman, there is a world out there. A big bright, shining world, full of opportunity for you to explore and learn and grow. That world is also full of hurt, depression, needs and brokenness. Don’t make your body the centre of your world. The world needs MORE from you than your body.

Yes, let’s take care of our bodies. Let’s eat healthy. Let’s live in moderation. (I’d really recommend you skip fast food.) But life is bigger than our bodies. Let that body be an instrument for God’s purposes. He gave you a body so you could move – so you could move mountains! Don’t make perfecting your body, thinking about your body, analyzing your body your hobby. He’s called you to more.

Be healthy, live in moderation, walk away from the mirror.
Go and change the world.

Love,
Jamie.

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  1. dortheaofoz

    December 10th, 2014 at 6:55 pm

    I love this Jamie.

  2. Joyce DZ

    December 10th, 2014 at 8:11 pm

    I suddenly found myself having an extra half hour to sit and read your ‘The Girl I once Was’ entries. I applaud your bravery and I admire your wisdom and strength at such a young age. I had the same struggles and there are still days wherein it’s not easy but you are right, life is way bigger than our bodies. Keep it up and keep inspiring people… I am — even though I am way older than you. :)

  3. Amelia Renee

    December 10th, 2014 at 8:29 pm

    Beatufiul. So so good. Thanks for these words, Jamie.

  4. Amy Vanderlaan

    December 11th, 2014 at 6:11 am

    This is so true! I find myself surprised every once in awhile still that I don’t count calories anymore, that I eat healthy but still treat myself, and all I do is power walk for exercise. My 15 year old self would have been so mortified. But there is soon much life beyond the scale and mirror and I wouldn’t trade it for a second. It’s wild that our bodies actually know where they are supposed to be at, without us punishing them in the gym or depriving them. I’ve been the same weight for 5 years now (give or take 5 pounds) and I feel FREE. Praise Jesus!
    Love you Jamie :)

  5. Johanna K

    December 11th, 2014 at 12:55 pm

    You are so right Jamie. Life is too short and precious to be obsessed with physical appearance. Having a perfect body doesn’t measure up to the happiness you receive from helping people, being thankful and having an inspiring & happy marriage. So happy you found the one who inspires you to give even more of yourself :) You inspire me very much!

  6. Hope Easter

    December 12th, 2014 at 5:49 am

    Aww…I love this! I love exercising, but some are just too obsessed, and it can be a sad thing to watch. :( We have to take care of our bodies, not obsess over them. Keep on inspiring Mrs. Jamie! God Bless!

  7. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Thanks so much Dorothy.

  8. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Thanks Hope! Yes, I’ve definitely been there before that line between enjoyment and obsession has historically been a hard one for me to balance! :)

  9. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Thanks so much Johanna for this comment.

  10. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Love it Amy. I miss you in my life!!

  11. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Thanks Amelia.

  12. Jamie Delaine

    December 12th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    Thanks so much for reading Joyce, appreciate that.

  13. Emily Boyd

    December 13th, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    Thank you so, so much for this.

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